My hair hates me

I've tried a few shampoos and just can't find the right one! My hair is in between thin and thick, pretty long, and high lighted. I've always had oily hair and have to shampoo every day or by 5:00 p.m. my hair is dreadful. My friend had told me to stop using conditioner. Brushing my hair after getting out of the shower is painful! But after four days of not using conditioner my hair hasn't been as oily/greasy. If you have this problem try this!